Teenagers Suck!

So I just finished my latest book reading - Teenagers Suck! by Joanne Kimes and have resolved to the fact that Teenagers are not as bad as what we really thought - Of course having my own teen this came as a breath of fresh air - ummm no not really but it did however make me feel like I was on the right track even if it was driving me crazy! LOL - Basically you have to do just a couple of things to get going on the path of some type of teen assimiliation into the mainstream of life...

ONE you have to admit that your teen IS having some type of SEX - this sucks! but it is true and you cannot - repeat this with me - YOU CANNOT stop it! - it is as natural as taking a whiz! So YOU provide the information the "naked" truth if you will about precautions, emotional involvement (because lets face it women get emotionally involved no matter how much they pretend it is just a one nighter)...TWO, you have to admit that your teenager WILL NOT listen to you- thats right you can scream, you can thrash about, you can have a conniption fit and none of this will do you any good! So what do you do? Well I dont really have the perfect answer but from what I have been reading you LISTEN - not simply hear with your auditory sensors you actually LISTEN and ABSORB and try to see this from their twisted point of view and THREE (yes I AM going to stop at three) You have to admit that you cannot truly UNDERSTAND where they are coming from - a friend of mine told me that I have to understand and validate the fact that my daughter is an INDIVIDUAL and I need to treat her as such!
So there you have it - it is as easy as ONE,TWO,THREE - Just not as satisfying as lets say 1,2,3 easy bake brownies!

Next blog series I will be exploring yet another book and posting my thoughts about it online...feel free to share your own experiences please!

Baby Mama Drama!!!!!!!!!!

This image was taken from Amazon where I suggest if you have a crazy ass pyscho baby mama in your life you go purchase this book.

don't let this fool make you take off your crown for a Battle Royale. Instead you must allow her to tumble mindlessly into the moat and drown in her own foolishness."~Ayesha J. Gallion

I often let the drama that my ex BM throws my direction drive me crazy...it is so toxic that I feel like I am just thrust into a battle that I am far more educated to be involved with. However I am human and thus get filled with the rage and emotion of wanting to just slap the taste out of her mouth and then poof something brings me back to reality and reminds me that this is HER problem not mine.
She is a 6 year old ex that obviously thinks the divorce happened yesterday? She gets joy out of acting like a child and texting me juvenile messages, talking random crap online and to her friends. She is forever trying to make herself the victim.

Why do I care or feel the need to defend myself? I have no frickin' clue - However I learn from her, I learn how not to behave in public, I learn how not to be bitter, and mostly I learn how to laugh my ass off at the stupid way she trys to save face and act like WE dont bother her...mostly what I should learn is how to just ignore her and remind myself everyday that this is not about her and me or even her and my fiance but rather it should be all about their two kids whom she allows to fall into the cracks for her stupid bruised ego!

Lesson learned - Baby Mama drama is what you allow it to be! Beat her at her own game - Ignore the Bitch!

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