As a parent we face so much societal pressure to be this "super mom" (even my "myspace" url has supermom in the name) We as women have to be this certain "type" of parent. The one that can juggle a job, shuttling children around, cooking dinner, cleaning the house, handling the bills --- all while looking well put together and fresh! Ummm yeah no that is not how my life runs...ever...Even when I had a job I did all the above while still maintaining a "fashionable" appearance but just ask my family - I was less than pleasant while doing all of this. I therefore am a big fan of "village parenting" --- where other's in your circle share the "parental shoes".
When my daugther was younger I had this in place...Friends shared running "our" children between activities and school - we planned parties together - helped cook meals - sent each other shopping needs via internet..etc...and now that I have my son we still step into each other's shoes to help out.
We all have one thing in common, my crazy friends and I - we are not afraid to say I don't enjoy doing it all and then some!
Every now and then you have to allow yourself the space to say this over and over...you have to tell yourself that it is okay to want to be more than just a mother (because in the end when you are more than a mother you are at your best of being a mother)
Thanks to Ayelet Waldman and her awesome book that allowed me to embrace this me and be proud of it!
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