Confessions of a Slacker mom...by muffey mead-ferro
I have to be honest this book started out dry...I didnt think I was going to get anything from it...by the time I was done It dawned on me - Damn that lady is absolutely correct! We shelter our kids so much that WE f' them up for the real world. We dont let them fall down because they might get hurt (right a natural consequence) We give them all trophy's to make everyone feel equal (um not right this complex world does not allow for equality in most things - okay in nothing!) We dont allow them to see that their is a hierarchy to everything and that there are natural consequences to all you do in life.
My daugther is a perfect example, I did everything I could to give her a well rounded life. I kept her out of harms way, I made sure she always felt validated, I always made her feel that she could do anything she put her mind to....here's the shitty reality I f'd her up! I should not of have validated her every emotion because now she is a drama demon and if I dont show some type of concern for her every waking minute she goes into some self induced teenage dramatic depression. Second mistake making her think she was good at everything and that she could do anything when the crappy reality is that NO ONE is good at all things and NO ONE I dont care who you are can truly be ANYTHING you want to be. The reality is we are all good at hopefully at least one thing.
We can either focus a little attention to everything or alot of attention to one good thing!
enough said! stop f'ing up your kids America - NO ONE IS PERFECT!
Dont get me wrong I absolutely love my daugther but I wonder sometimes in indulging her every move if I were not already setting her up for disaster and dissapointment. It seems as though the more you try to build up their self esteem you blind them to the fact that dissapointment does happen....i'm just saying.
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