So I just finished my latest book reading - Teenagers Suck! by Joanne Kimes and have resolved to the fact that Teenagers are not as bad as what we really thought - Of course having my own teen this came as a breath of fresh air - ummm no not really but it did however make me feel like I was on the right track even if it was driving me crazy! LOL - Basically you have to do just a couple of things to get going on the path of some type of teen assimiliation into the mainstream of life...
ONE you have to admit that your teen IS having some type of SEX - this sucks! but it is true and you cannot - repeat this with me - YOU CANNOT stop it! - it is as natural as taking a whiz! So YOU provide the information the "naked" truth if you will about precautions, emotional involvement (because lets face it women get emotionally involved no matter how much they pretend it is just a one nighter)...TWO, you have to admit that your teenager WILL NOT listen to you- thats right you can scream, you can thrash about, you can have a conniption fit and none of this will do you any good! So what do you do? Well I dont really have the perfect answer but from what I have been reading you LISTEN - not simply hear with your auditory sensors you actually LISTEN and ABSORB and try to see this from their twisted point of view and THREE (yes I AM going to stop at three) You have to admit that you cannot truly UNDERSTAND where they are coming from - a friend of mine told me that I have to understand and validate the fact that my daughter is an INDIVIDUAL and I need to treat her as such!
So there you have it - it is as easy as ONE,TWO,THREE - Just not as satisfying as lets say 1,2,3 easy bake brownies!
Next blog series I will be exploring yet another book and posting my thoughts about it online...feel free to share your own experiences please!
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