The Screamin' Demon

Funny Picture? Not really...

This picture represents what your man constantly thinks you are doing to him. I find that no matter how much we (as women) try to "talk" or "discuss" things that may bother us, our men cannot get away from this image in their brains?  It seems that every time a woman opens her mouth to voice an opinion, make a statement or for that matter make an attempt at a joke - we receive the same response? A withdrawn male who either strikes at you (even though you have not struck first) or a man who just dismisses, rolls his eyes (oh yes ladies men roll their eyes perhaps more than we) and just decides to turn it into something it is not.  

Ladies we get accused of being the ones who make a big deal out of nothing or have to create such a fuss over a "harmless" comment someone makes, but men too have these characteristics.  I feel that I have worked hard at making "I" statements, accepting my role in arguments and adjusting my temper to fit the crime.  But is it enough? At the end of the day (not all days but some) I feel that I work and work and I still receive the same response?  I get the same undesired result for different approaches?  It doesn't make a woman want to work harder.

To play devils advocate (against myself no less) for the men, we have screamed, yelled, had a bitch fit about some pretty silly things.  We have accused, put our hands on our hips and stared holes through our husbands and boyfriends for years. But the one thing that stays with me when I reflect on this is that perhaps if these men took time to see their part in these "tirades" perhaps they would understand why putting your dirty socks on the table didn't really start the fight, (it is really about your insensitivity to the hard work we put into making the house look nice for you and in that one short bad gesture you have just said to us "hey it doesn't matter, I don't care").

I guess what my post is really about is this....Men take notice if your woman has attempted to change her game.  Pay attention to how hard she tries to not yell, how she is starting to let some of those "silly" things go.  See how hard she is working and stop just falling back on what things used to be like.  Rip up that image you have (see above yelling crazy lady) and give her a chance. One day she may not be there for you to say "hey I see it now" -I mean We loved you enough to rip up this image?